So what does my notebook have to do with this?
I was on a call with my mentor and she had helped me to start journaling again. I used to journal a lot but had gotten out of the habit. While on the call, I held up my journal. It was not a journal. It was a red marble composition book I had picked up on a quick trip to the store.
She quickly called me out on it.
She asked why on earth i was using that notebook. I know immediately what she was referring to.
You see for years, I had been beaten down so badly emotionally that I had put away anything of value that I had accumulated. My self worth was in the dirt. That is what this marble notebook symbolized. It was me accepting the very basics. She told me to get my butt to the store and find myself a beautiful journal that would signify me, my self worth, and that I would feel inspired to write in.
So I did just that. I went to Barnes and Nobles and found a beautiful journal with gold on the edges of the pages and the softest most beautiful cover. And even bought a beautiful gold pen to use with it.
You see, when we allow ourselves to lose our sense of self worth, and we put everyone else in front of ourselves we begin to believe we are not worthy of treating ourselves to nice things. And then the accumulating effect is the guilt and shame we lay on ourselves when we want to do something.
What I realized, over time not over night, is that I am worthy of nice things. I am deserving of that beautiful journal and pen, and I can treat myself without the guilt and shame that I allowed others to place on me.
And you know what!! You are worthy, and you are deserving, and you can treat yourself!! And no, you don’t have to feel guilt or shame for doing it!!
I challenge you to do one small thing for you this week!
Leave me a note about how you chose to treat yourself!!
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How do you truly feel about your family time? Is it relaxed, fun, joyful, happy? Or is it tense, frustrating, and stressful? More and more, I see (with NO judgement) families being in the tense, frustrated and stressful situation.
My family was there, too.
What I have learned, and want to share with you, is how you can help your family to find its way to the relaxed, fun, joyful and happy state that we all crave. You can do it!!
We recently started a Healing Through Love Facebook group to help support moms and women. The one thing that so many of these women, as well as so many other women I have met along my journey claim, is that they feel guilty for taking time for themselves. Things like working out, making themselves a nutritious meal, taking a walk, taking a bath, meditating, or reading a book, suddenly become like a dream.
“If I only had more time..."
Your children are watching….
What do you want them to see?
You know the statement “Do as I say, not as I do.”.... Yeah, that’s BS.
One of my mentors,
Rha Goddess, says:
“More important than what we SAY, is what we DO.
And more important than what we DO, is who we BE.
I am one to say that when we see, hatred, judgement, anger,
or resentment, rage, or
violence, we are acting from a place of fear.
The first time someone told me this,
I immediately thought, “This is BS. I am not afraid.”
But when I sat with this concept for a while, it started to make sense.
This is an awesome analogy for what we are experiencing today. As we remember those who have given their lives so we may live free, it makes me think about all of those who have passed from Covid 19. All of our front line workers who have risked their lives, and how the world has come to a crashing halt.
I don’t know about you, but I think it’s about time for some serious girl talk.
Time for some wine, some serious laughs, and just some straight up FUN!
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